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September 2014
19

Today was the first crisp day of the year that left me thinking of warm drinks, wooly sweaters, and crunchy leaves. My mind even wandered to Halloween! With fall finally here for many of us, it is time to break out our winter wardrobes. These are my essential trends for the season! 

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September 2014
18
These days, with the battles that feminism needs to fight being more subtly present in our society, a lot of people deny the need for its existence. If they do concede that it has a place, they counter it with arguments that dismiss or undermine the experiences of individuals. Especially the experiences of women. One particular argument that always catches my eye is so commonly found in the comments of articles of sexual abuse, that it can almost be an argument for the need for feminism itself. The argument goes as follows:“It happens to men too.”This is true. It honestly is, and I do not intend to downplay the sexualized violence that men experience. However, it is more than apparent from the numbers, that women are overwhelmingly more likely to be the target of violence. 80-90% of victims are in fact female. Today I don’t want to look at the victims of sexualized violence though. We have done that more than enough and obviously, this argument won’t seem to die. The problem is that by pointing out that sexualized violence happens to men too, one is generally implying that women can be abusive too. Which is true. Sometimes. What I find interesting and far more important than the statistics of the victims, is the fact that most cases of sexual abuse, whether it be directed at women or men, are perpetrated by men. Even when it is happening to men, other men are often the cause. In fact, 90 to 98% of these crimes are committed by men.So, why is it that this argument is used by humanists to say that we just need to be nicer to each other to improve the human condition? The problem is not that all people are violent. Women are not contributing equally to this violence. Not even close. Humanism is not the right approach. This is a gender issue, and I see a place for feminism in it. 
Sources:http://www.sexassault.ca/statistics.htmhttp://www.oneinfourusa.org/statistics.php

These days, with the battles that feminism needs to fight being more subtly present in our society, a lot of people deny the need for its existence. If they do concede that it has a place, they counter it with arguments that dismiss or undermine the experiences of individuals. Especially the experiences of women. One particular argument that always catches my eye is so commonly found in the comments of articles of sexual abuse, that it can almost be an argument for the need for feminism itself. The argument goes as follows:

“It happens to men too.”

This is true. It honestly is, and I do not intend to downplay the sexualized violence that men experience. However, it is more than apparent from the numbers, that women are overwhelmingly more likely to be the target of violence. 80-90% of victims are in fact female. 

Today I don’t want to look at the victims of sexualized violence though. We have done that more than enough and obviously, this argument won’t seem to die. The problem is that by pointing out that sexualized violence happens to men too, one is generally implying that women can be abusive too. Which is true. Sometimes. What I find interesting and far more important than the statistics of the victims, is the fact that most cases of sexual abuse, whether it be directed at women or men, are perpetrated by men. Even when it is happening to men, other men are often the cause. In fact, 90 to 98% of these crimes are committed by men.

So, why is it that this argument is used by humanists to say that we just need to be nicer to each other to improve the human condition? The problem is not that all people are violent. Women are not contributing equally to this violence. Not even close. Humanism is not the right approach. This is a gender issue, and I see a place for feminism in it. 

Sources:
http://www.sexassault.ca/statistics.htm
http://www.oneinfourusa.org/statistics.php

September 2014
17
Outfit of the Day: I paired my flowery bodycon dress with a jean shirt tied around my waist to make an otherwise fancy look more casual for school. I wore black Keds, a citrine pendant and topped it off with my black leather backpack. 

Outfit of the Day: I paired my flowery bodycon dress with a jean shirt tied around my waist to make an otherwise fancy look more casual for school. I wore black Keds, a citrine pendant and topped it off with my black leather backpack. 

September 2014
09
Mecca Kalani - Feel meTina Dico - I Want YouAndrew Belle - In My VeinsCourtney Jones - WeightlessAndrew Bird - AnonanimalFleurie - HymnArms and Sleepers - Twentynine PalmsChelsea Wolfe - The Waves Have Come
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Mecca Kalani - Feel me
Tina Dico - I Want You
Andrew Belle - In My Veins
Courtney Jones - Weightless
Andrew Bird - Anonanimal
Fleurie - Hymn
Arms and Sleepers - Twentynine Palms
Chelsea Wolfe - The Waves Have Come

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August 2014
31

Anonymous asked

¿whats your favourite singer? please answer,im argentinian i love you ♥

Hello! I don’t really have a favourite. I have a lot of favourite songs, but they are from a lot of different artists. That being said, I like Daughter, Ally Rhodes, Rae Morris, The Boxer Rebellion, Cinephile and Chelsea Wolfe are some I like! :)

August 2014
20

Hi guys, my name is Kelsey Snowdon! This is an original song that I wrote and recorded. It would mean the world if you could listen to it, and reblog it if you like it!

Thank you so much!

August 2014
17

thecailin reblogged your post: This quote has been popping up a lot …

My entire post was about how this quote can have damaging connotations. Please don’t reblog it without the text, as I do not want my post shared like this :( 

I was hoping it would be a reminder to people that they are never obligated to reciprocate love. Not tell people that they have to. 

August 2014
17
This quote has been popping up a lot lately. Despite how at a first glance this conveys only the best intentions, I can’t help but be uncomfortable with it. If you interpret this to only apply in scenarios where feelings are entirely mutual, then maybe it’s fine. However, When I read it, I only see the very risky attitude it is encouraging. 
Things like this sound beautiful on paper. But when you actually put them into the real world, they aren’t always good. To me this is saying that you should pay attention to and actively engage with people who love you because if they care, then you owe it to them. And here’s the thing. I don’t care how much someone loves you, cares about you or misses you. You are never obligated to love or keep someone in your life just because they want you. 
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It is nice to be loved, and it is important to cherish the relationships you have. If you care about someone, you better make sure they know, and definitely don’t ignore your mom even if she bugs you. But you are never obligated to reciprocate feelings and put effort into having someone in your life just because they have feelings for you. Furthermore, there are plenty of relationships in which someone can love you yet still be entirely bad for you, whether that be in terms of dating, friendship or family. 
Don’t let a feeling of obligation to return love hold you back, and don’t keep people who are not supporting you, inspiring you or allowing you to grow. There’s always a balance.

This quote has been popping up a lot lately. Despite how at a first glance this conveys only the best intentions, I can’t help but be uncomfortable with it. If you interpret this to only apply in scenarios where feelings are entirely mutual, then maybe it’s fine. However, When I read it, I only see the very risky attitude it is encouraging. 

Things like this sound beautiful on paper. But when you actually put them into the real world, they aren’t always good. To me this is saying that you should pay attention to and actively engage with people who love you because if they care, then you owe it to them. And here’s the thing. I don’t care how much someone loves you, cares about you or misses you. You are never obligated to love or keep someone in your life just because they want you. 

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August 2014
17

Pretty in Pastel

While we all appreciate the power of all black attire, right now, pastels are finding their way into stores. If you are like me and live in a rather dull area when it comes to fashion, with everyone wearing dark colours, pastels and bright items really stand out. And they definitely add a little happiness when winter comes around!

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August 2014
08

DIY Statement Necklace

These chain necklaces are pretty popular these days. It’s difficult to scroll through the DIY necklace tag on Pinterest without finding something similar! I decided to through my own necklace together seeing as I had all the materials I needed lying around. Here’s how I made mine!

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